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Denial, Meet Acceptance....

When we shirk off our responsibilities or any thought to how we arrived at our current predicament, we live in a state of denial, a false protection against the fear we have of taking charge of our lives.

Looking at your life do youoften wonder how you wound up where you are?  Maybe you count dumb luckas a way you got the job you have or the business you run, or maybe you’vejust been at the right place at the wrong time and it worked out foryou.  When we shirk off our responsibilities or any thought to how wearrived at our current predicament, we live in a state of denial, a falseprotection against the fear we have of taking charge of our lives.

Denial is a mask, a shroud,a garment we wear when nothing else seems to fit.  It’s what keeps us inplace, holding on long after we forgot why we were holding on in the firstplace. Denial represents protection against the unknown. What we fail torecognize is that denial is just another form of perception.  It forcesus to face our fears hoping to garner some control over any loss we are alldestined to face.

You may think you are readyfor a promotion, a new job a big bump in salary and have convinced yourselfand others that no matter what, you will get what you deserve.  There isalways hope even though the fact remains that you may not be ready for thepromotion or the new job and that your company may not be doling out bigraises any time soon.  There is a fine line between holding onto falsehope and living in a perpetual state of denial. Here is where I’d like tointroduce you to acceptance.

Acceptance does not meangiving up, it does not imply that all hope is lost and that you will neverhave what you deserve and get what you want from your career. Acceptance means that you can’t alter how events play out in your life or theway people will behave towards you in any given situation, but you do have achoice in how you will react to those situations. Understanding thedifference means you can learn to choose how to react and accept what youcan’t change. It’s nice to live in la-la land but it’s not always the land ofthe living.  Accepting what is and knowing that you can change what willbe means you are living in the moment and working towards a goal that will ultimately help you move forward in your career and in your life.

It may feel that byaccepting the fact that you have a less than desirable job, a meager incomeor lack the ambition to move forward, means you will never succeed at whatyou want. If you live in a perpetual state of denying yourself theopportunity to accept what you cannot change you risk losing more in the end.Having faith is one thing, living a lie hurts you and makes you missopportunities when they do arise.

Acceptance allows you to befree to choose over and over again and not fear the risk of losing somethingyou can’t replace.  You don’t need to ponder why you are where you areespecially if you are not comfortable with it. There is always another choiceto be made when it comes to your career even though you may not always feelthat way.  Accept the now and be ready to change what you can in thefuture.

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